LOTRO: Rebuilding Kinships
I wrote a while ago that a lot of kinships from the MMORPG, The Lord of the Rings Online, would probably not survive the recent server migration. MMOs are social endeavours by nature, often with strong emotional ties but a lot of kinships (or guilds) have already fallen into decline, simply due to gaming entropy. Hence the migration has seen players leave existing kinships to move to the superior 64-bit servers, resulting in a lot of people who may be potentially looking for a new home. This is exactly what happened to me. I opted to move to Meriadoc server promptly, at the cost of leaving a kinship I have been a member of since 2009. However, the move presented me with an opportunity to remedy this problem myself. I subsequently set up my own kinship and decided to make it available to others.
I wrote a while ago that a lot of kinships from the MMORPG, The Lord of the Rings Online, would probably not survive the recent server migration. MMOs are social endeavours by nature, often with strong emotional ties but a lot of kinships (or guilds) have already fallen into decline, simply due to gaming entropy. Hence the migration has seen players leave existing kinships to move to the superior 64-bit servers, resulting in a lot of people who may be potentially looking for a new home. This is exactly what happened to me. I opted to move to Meriadoc server promptly, at the cost of leaving a kinship I have been a member of since 2009. However, the move presented me with an opportunity to remedy this problem myself. I subsequently set up my own kinship and decided to make it available to others.
It should be noted that the Contains Moderate Peril kinship is primarily intended to be a rallying point, rather than a fully functional social entity. Somewhere to hang out in-game as it were. However, if people want to organise activities and group content, that’s fine by me. So far, several of my old kinmates from Laurelin server have joined while they attempt to round up other wayward members. They may move on in time, which is fine. They may also choose to stay, which is also fine. As I’m sure there is a growing diaspora of 32-bit refugees at present in LOTRO, I thought it would be a good idea to extend an open invitation to any players looking for an intermediate kinship. At the very least Contains Moderate Peril kinship can offer some company as well as a cool kin name under your in-game title.
If any of this appeals to you and you’d like to join the Contains Moderate Peril kinship, add the following names to your LOTRO friends list. Tercano on Peregrin server and Xusia on Meriadoc server. I’m afraid I don’t have any specific hours that I play. I tend to log into LOTRO whenever the fancy takes me. Hence if you see me online then just send me a direct message and I’ll add you to the kinship on the fly. The server migration certainly seems to have reinvigorated The Lord of the Rings Online despite some of the problems that arose. I see a lot of posts on the official forums and reddit regarding new and returning players. Rather than drifting around Standing Stone Games’ virtual Middle-earth aimlessly, why not join our kinship, so you can meander about with like minded company.
LOTRO: Will Your Kinship Survive the Server Migration?
I have many pleasant memories associated with playing the MMORPG The Lord of the Rings Online during its first decade. A lot of them are due to the kinship (guild) that I have been a member of since 2009. I started playing LOTRO in December 2008 and it took me a while to find a suitable kinship but once I did, it made logging into the game a real pleasure. I was at a point in my life where I had sufficient time to play the game regularly and take part in kinship organised raids. It was also an added bonus to be able to spend some time and chat with some like minded people. I’m sure such an experience is not unique to me and that many LOTRO players have enjoyed similar periods of time. The lucky ones may still be enjoying a comparable kinship experience today.
I have many pleasant memories associated with playing the MMORPG The Lord of the Rings Online during its first decade. A lot of them are due to the kinship (guild) that I have been a member of since 2009. I started playing LOTRO in December 2008 and it took me a while to find a suitable kinship but once I did, it made logging into the game a real pleasure. I was at a point in my life where I had sufficient time to play the game regularly and take part in kinship organised raids. It was also an added bonus to be able to spend some time and chat with some like minded people. I’m sure such an experience is not unique to me and that many LOTRO players have enjoyed similar periods of time. The lucky ones may still be enjoying a comparable kinship experience today.
Sadly, nothing remains the same forever. Kinships eventually run out of steam as people move on to other games or their personal circumstances change. MMOS themselves have fundamentally changed and a lot of content is no longer designed to be exclusively tackled by a group. For all the positive social aspects that a kinship can offer, there are also plenty of negatives ones as well. Drama, conflict and hierarchies. Hence a lot of players no longer see kinships as an essential part of the game experience but an optional extra. As a result of this gaming evolution and changing social dynamics, many kinships turn from an active social collective to a legacy group. The kinship endures but is no longer active. People stay out of friendship, or simply because why alter the status quo. Human nature loves the path of least resistance.
I suspect that for every active kinship there is in LOTRO who plan raids or social activities on a regular basis, there are another two which have become what I described previously as a legacy group. Kinships that have a house and a few members that decorate it and leave items in the kin chest. Everyone says “hi” to each other when they come online and one member continuously updates the message of the day to reflect what item is free in the in-game store. Long term players bring their alts into the kinship out of habit. Occasionally a returning player makes an appearance and everyone gets nostalgic. But beyond this, nothing really happens. No one runs group content and at times you may find that you’re the only member on the kinship online. You check the offline roster and see that people have been active but more often than not, you’re ships that pass in the night.
For kinships such as these, the forthcoming server migration is a significant problem. The logistics of moving alts, housing and a social group are not simple. Sadly, many members of inactive kinships do not have a means to communicate with all members. My own kinship has a Discord server but it is not used by everyone. Furthermore, not everyone who plays LOTRO takes an active interest in developer press releases. I have encountered a few random kinmates of late in-game, who were unaware of the server migration, including the kinship leader. None of which bodes well for a process that will require some organisation and management. Our kinship has to decide which server to migrate to and then the leader has to do a lot of prep to smoothly move the guild from A to B. Individual players also have to make decisions about housing and alts. Unless you travel lightly, all players will have some work to do.
When faced with the realities of this server migration and what it entails, I think a lot of LOTRO kinships will effectively come to an end, either by choice or as a consequence of change. People with opulent houses are going to have enough work cut out for them when they arrive on their new server and have to totally redecorate. VIP players can only protect three alts names prior to the move. What about the rest of their characters? Kinship leaders have all these woes on top of having to spearhead the transfer of their kin. Then on top of all this, there is the risk that comes with any change of infrastructure. Hence some players may decide to leave their current kinship and look for a new home on the new server. Possibly some kinship will collectively decide to call it a day. Others may end up fragmented with a percentage of players moving, while a handful resolutely remain on their old 32-bit home.
I think centralising LOTROs player base between six 64-bit servers, half in the US and half in Europe, will ultimately be good for the game. It is important to see other players in an MMORPG and reinforce the notion of a shared environment. However, I do not expect the process to go 100% smoothly and there is a lot of potential for collateral damage to occur along the way. SSG has to manage this process better than they did last time they consolidated servers back in 2011. Perhaps in some respects this situation provides an opportunity for a social reset among legacy linships that are effectively just treading water. Perhaps some will merge with others in the hope of revitalising interest. But I suspect many will simply fade away, which in many respects is a very Tolkienesque theme.
Guilds Are Not Group Therapy
I was recently trawling through some screen captures from 2009, taken when I was a very active player in the MMORPG The Lord of the Rings Online. Several included the chat window as I hadn’t turned off the GUI when I pressed “print screen”. Hence I read a few fragments of chat which subsequently reminded me of a problematic situation our guild experienced for a couple of months. That being when someone joins your guild and at first seems like a good fit but later starts becoming difficult and unreasonable with regard to their expectations and online behaviour. The person in question in this instance eventually stated that they had mental health issues but by the time this was raised a lot of harm had been done to all parties concerned. They ended up leaving after an argument centred around perceived personal slights and a lack of support for their needs. It was an upsetting experience that was poorly handled, although it wasn’t any particular person’s fault.
I was recently trawling through some screen captures from 2009, taken when I was a very active player in the MMORPG The Lord of the Rings Online. Several included the chat window as I hadn’t turned off the GUI when I pressed “print screen”. Hence I read a few fragments of chat which subsequently reminded me of a problematic situation our guild experienced for a couple of months. That being when someone joins your guild and at first seems like a good fit but later starts becoming difficult and unreasonable with regard to their expectations and online behaviour. The person in question in this instance eventually stated that they had mental health issues but by the time this was raised a lot of harm had been done to all parties concerned. They ended up leaving after an argument centred around perceived personal slights and a lack of support for their needs. It was an upsetting experience that was poorly handled, although it wasn’t any particular person’s fault.
To summarise, a new player joined our LOTRO guild (kinship in the games own parlance) after grouping with some of our officers. They had been up to that point polite although a little shy and keen to learn and undertake group content. They did not use voice chat but would listen in and communicate via the chat window, which was not unusual as we had several other players that did this for a variety of reasons. After a while, especially when running instances and raids, they began to get frustrated with failure and when the group wiped. Although we never ever as a group blamed anyone, this person began to suggest we were inferring it. They also made a lot of suggestions regarding gameplay and strategy that were not relevant or useful. They had previously been an active player of another MMO and didn’t seem to understand that the mechanics and dynamics were not transferable.
It all culminated in a major argument one Friday night during a planned raid. Again a group wipe caused frustration for them. Supportive comments in chat about getting “back on the horse” were misinterpreted. Sub argument broke out via direct messages and then it started getting acrimonious. Eventually the guild leader interceded and politely suggested that the player take some time out to calm down and that they would happily listen to any legitimate concerns. It was at this point that the upset player declared to have mental health issues and that they were looking to the guild to work these through. It seemed that every positive thing said to placate and defuse the situation was taken the wrong way and they then quit the guild and vanished into the ether. A long and detailed in-game mail was sent the next day claiming bullying and callousness, none of which from my perspective was true. The player then either deleted or renamed their character and was subsequently untraceable.
Over the years, I have noticed that the MMO genre attracts a lot of people who have personal problems and who are facing mental health issues. MMOs offer a means of social interaction that is far more controlled and potentially manageable compared to those in real life. You can reinvent your persona and the way you are perceived. Chatting in text puts you far more in control of the situation. Hence you can see why MMOs are appealing to the introverted and those who wish a degree of privacy, while still having company and fun. However, the pendulum can swing equally the other way. Text driven chat can be a blunt tool. If you can’t see or hear someone, you can miss a lot of social cues. Irony and sarcasm are an obvious example. Plus, even online and within the superficially cosy atmosphere of an MMO, a lot of the problems from regular social interaction still persist. There are dominant personalities, cliques, power struggles and egos to deal with.
Hence, although I can see the allure of seeing an MMO as a safe or at least controlled environment to meet people and work through or address one’s personal problems, it strikes me as a far from appropriate environment to treat as a form of therapy. I’m sure some gamers may well contradict me and possibly cite positive examples of how they used their guilds as a medium for self healing. If that is the case then well done but I’m not sure if that is the prevailing experience. With regard to the anecdote I shared earlier, I was unaware of the person in question’s issues and even if they had talked about them earlier, would not have felt adequately equipped to help them beyond basic common decency. It also strikes me as a little unrealistic to expect too much from guild mates, when your main social bond is just playing and enjoying the game together.
Some guilds are set up to specifically cater to particular people or groups. To provide a safe space, a friendly environment and a support network. That is a different kettle of fish and a far cry from joining a casual guild of random players. It is difficult to gauge exactly what you should and should not expect from other players when joining a guild. I am happy to be welcoming and supportive to new players. But where does that social obligation end exactly? I find myself with more questions than answers. However, I feel that guilds are not an ideal medium for group therapy or as a means to self treat. I still look back on this incident from 2009 with a degree of upset. Did we do something wrong? Or were we wrong footed through no fault of our own? I wonder about the wellbeing of the individual concerned but as I previously stated, they vanished. Something that the internet accommodates quite well.
Guilds, Kinships and Fleets
I’ve been in the same LOTRO kinship (a.k.a. guild) since 2009. It’s relatively small in size, made up of a core group of about 20 players and their various alts. Everyone knows each other, and we all get along. There’s a broad spectrum of members from across the UK and Europe and the average age is about 35 plus. We’ve had some drama in the past from a few individuals, but they’ve either left or stopped playing. I don’t recollect there ever being an occasion when someone was. After ten years the kinship is at a point where it just ticks over without any major problems. There are events and activities for those who wish to participate, or if you prefer to simply potter about Middle-earth, then you’ll be left to do so. In the past we’ve had our own kinship website and forums, along with TeamSpeak server and other external support facilities. Bu all of these have fallen by the wayside as the Kinship has evolved. We now just focus on playing the game. Overall, the kinship is a friendly bunch and a good fit for my casual style of gameplay, which is why I’ve remained a member for nine years.
I’ve been in the same LOTRO kinship (a.k.a. guild) since 2009. It’s relatively small in size, made up of a core group of about 20 players and their various alts. Everyone knows each other, and we all get along. There’s a broad spectrum of members from across the UK and Europe and the average age is about 35 plus. We’ve had some drama in the past from a few individuals, but they’ve either left or stopped playing. I don’t recollect there ever being an occasion when someone was. After ten years the kinship is at a point where it just ticks over without any major problems. There are events and activities for those who wish to participate, or if you prefer to simply potter about Middle-earth, then you’ll be left to do so. In the past we’ve had our own kinship website and forums, along with TeamSpeak server and other external support facilities. Bu all of these have fallen by the wayside as the Kinship has evolved. We now just focus on playing the game. Overall, the kinship is a friendly bunch and a good fit for my casual style of gameplay, which is why I’ve remained a member for nine years.
LOTRO was my first MMO and when I started playing in 2008, co-operative play was the key to progression. Much of the games content was not solo friendly, therefore joining a kinship would at that point, greatly enhance a player’s experience. However, over time things have changed. Not just for LOTRO but for many other games from the MMO genre. Despite having played Guild Wars 2, The Secret World, Rift and SWTOR, I’ve never joined a guild for any of these games. There was (and remains for me) no compelling reason to do so. When I started playing LOTRO, part of the charm of the game and indeed the genre, was the social aspect. For me the notion of playing online with others was still a novel experience. However, as newer MMOs emerged, I found that I was more concerned with their gameplay and narrative, rather than cultivating new friendships. Furthermore, due to the increase in casual gaming, more recent MMOs are far more casual friendly.
There are always exceptions to the rules, though. The Fleet system in Star Trek Online offers a wealth of benefits and a player is potentially limiting their options if they do not join one. Fleet holdings such as the Starbases and dilithium mines are maintained by players contributing resources. Once holdings reach optimal capacity, they can provide gear, weapons and consumables, all of which are of a superior quality to that from standard vendors. It’s a relatively similar situation in The Elder Scrolls Online. Being in a guild allows access to quality crafted items which are not so readily available elsewhere. Hence in both these games I have joined guilds, simply to gain access to these facilities. In STO I am a member of REDdit Alert Fleet and although they are a friendly bunch, I am not socially active within it. I maintain a level of civility and ensure I contribute to the fleet projects but beyond that I tend to keep myself to myself and pursue my own goals within the game.
Playing any MMO successfully requires a substantial investment of time. The same can be said about joining a guild. A guild is more than just a collective designed to facilitate group content. It is often a closely knit social group in which members become firm friends, get to know each other and provide mutual support. They can become very intimate environments, sometimes doubling as group therapy or a virtual pub in which players can blow off steam after a tough day at work. For me, my best experience in a guild coincided with my best experience with an MMO. It was during a two-year period of my life in which I had the time and inclination to dedicate to both a leisure activity and a social group. It was a time that I enjoyed immensely. Now, although I like the social aspects of guilds in STO and ESO, they are mainly a means to an end. However, if I ever get nostalgic, all I have to do is return to my LOTRO kinship to be reminded of prior good times.