New Year: Taking Stock of Your Life
I don’t really celebrate New Year’s Eve anymore. By that I mean, I don’t go to the pub or any other social gatherings. Nor do we have guests ourselves. Mrs P often doesn’t stay up to midnight. Mainly because she tends to go to bed relatively early, by default. One year changing to another seems a somewhat arbitrary excuse for a celebration to me. However, I realise that New Year is a big deal for some. I used to work with someone who said, very philosophically, that Christmas was for the children and New Year was for the adults. He was of Scottish antecedents and so New Year’s Eve was of more cultural significance to him. Also if you’ve had a difficult, problematic or traumatic 2025, then I fully understand that you may well be happy to see the back of 2025 and look to 2026 to be a significantly better year. Or at least, not to be as shit.
I don’t really celebrate New Year’s Eve anymore. By that I mean, I don’t go to the pub or any other social gatherings. Nor do we have guests ourselves. Mrs P often doesn’t stay up to midnight. Mainly because she tends to go to bed relatively early, by default. One year changing to another seems a somewhat arbitrary excuse for a celebration to me. However, I realise that New Year is a big deal for some. I used to work with someone who said, very philosophically, that Christmas was for the children and New Year was for the adults. He was of Scottish antecedents and so New Year’s Eve was of more cultural significance to him. Also if you’ve had a difficult, problematic or traumatic 2025, then I fully understand that you may well be happy to see the back of 2025 and look to 2026 to be a significantly better year. Or at least, not to be as shit.
However, one positive thing New Year does offer is an opportunity to take stock. I’m not talking about trite resolutions that the tabloid press are so fond of championing at this time of year. “New year, new you” sort of bullshit. I mean being brave and looking at your own life and giving serious consideration to what you can do to improve matters for yourself and possibly other people. You may also want to take a look at the state of the world. Be careful with this one as it can be a bit depressing. Although you may not be in a position to make any major changes there are lots of smaller scale things that we can do to help make life a little less shit. Taking stock should not be feared but embraced. A simple and honest audit of your personal status quo with a view to making some alterations. A chance to set some realistic and obtainable goals as well as a means to improve your state of mind.
I took time out from my usual activities at the end of April 2025. I went away for a short break to the Kent coast and was fortunate enough to have experienced some pleasant weather. I explored the picturesque town of Whitstable and relaxed at Margate Harbour. It was exceedingly restful to have a change of scene and be somewhere else for a change. During this time I candidly took stock of my life and the wider world in general. I am now a 58 years old man with more time behind me than I have in front of me. The world is also changing and I would argue not for the better. So I’ve been reflecting on both the past and the future. It has proven to be a valuable exercise and I feel better for it as I now have some clarity as to where I’m going. I have also made some decisions. Hopefully decisions that will address some of the things concerning me.
I won’t bore you with my various plans to improve my health or pursue various new writing projects. Because those aren’t really radical challenges. Improving my health is an imperative and therefore will be addressed simply because I fear the alternatives. The writing and associated projects will be done because they are a major source of pleasure and a creative outlet for me. The real and potentially challenging change I wish to make is to simply be more positive in my outlook on life. To make a concerted effort to find the good in situations and people and to dial back the skepticism. I want to be the person who after identifying an issue or problem, then has a cunning plan to address it. I believe this to be an important goal because legitimate concerns over what might happen both in your own backyard or globally are causing good people to retreat into their own personal inland empire.
I fully appreciate why disengaging from aspects of the world is a means to protect one’s mental wellbeing but it can also be part of a wider retreat from life. This concerns me because I keep coming back to the famous quote attributed to Edmond Burke. “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing”. My gut is telling me that 2026 is not the year to do this. I think we need to hold the line. I’m not saying that we all need to become militant, firebrand activists. I just think we need to do what we can within the context of our own lives. Speak out if appropriate or undertake small acts of kindness. Praise those who merit praise. Admonish those who don’t. Be kind. Be strong. Be true. At the very least don’t be an asshole. There are far too many of those already. I’m certainly going to give it a go, although I have no idea how it’s going to work. In the meantime “Merry New Year” as Eddie Murphy said in Trading Places. Take stock and act. See you in 2026.
Thinking Out Loud
At present the UK is enduring some relatively harsh winter conditions. Usually November to February is continuously filled with rain and drizzle. When it is not enduring either of those things it tends to be overcast and gloomy. However, for a change the nation is currently experiencing snow, ice and heavy frosts. Even as far as the South East of England (IE where I live) the weather is cold, reaching temperatures as low as -3° celsius. Oh and before we get into the usual “You call that cold? It’s -X degrees here” argument, more fool you for living somewhere freezing. You can move, you know. Getting back on point I hate this time of year because it is so dreary. There’s nothing immediately on the horizon to look forward to and the cold weather just makes the matter worse. The UK is never equipped for snow to begin with. The idea of a fortnight somewhere warmer suddenly becomes a lot more appealing.
Here we are again with another selection of thoughts and ideas that have crossed my mind recently. As always, some could be developed into blog posts of their own but that really isn’t the point of this recurring post. This is more of a curated “brain fart”, where I just put a virtual pen to paper and get some of my thoughts written down for your consideration. As always, please feel free to leave a comment.
Winter
At present the UK is enduring some relatively harsh winter conditions. Usually November to February is continuously filled with rain and drizzle. When it is not enduring either of those things it tends to be overcast and gloomy. However, for a change the nation is currently experiencing snow, ice and heavy frosts. Even as far as the South East of England (IE where I live) the weather is cold, reaching temperatures as low as -3° celsius. Oh and before we get into the usual “You call that cold? It’s -X degrees here” argument, more fool you for living somewhere freezing. You can move, you know. Getting back on point I hate this time of year because it is so dreary. There’s nothing immediately on the horizon to look forward to and the cold weather just makes the matter worse. The UK is never equipped for snow to begin with. The idea of a fortnight somewhere warmer suddenly becomes a lot more appealing.
New Year Honours
Each year on January 1st, the New Year Honours are announced as part of the wider British Honours System. This often attracts a great deal of negative and partisan debate because a percentage of those nominated are serving or former politicians and titles and awards are seen as a “reward” or “payoff”. This is especially so when someone is made a Lord and gets a permanent seat in the second chamber of the UK parliament, The House of Lords. The UK tabloid press also dislikes it when celebrities or those connected to the arts receive honours due to diverging political opinions and affiliations.
But the vast majority of New Year Honours are given to members of the public for their service to others. Furthermore they are nominated by their peers and friends. Hence, decent people such as those providing school crossing patrols or running charities such as food banks will receive “gongs” and initials after their names. I do not consider this a bad thing and find it frustrating that a worthy form of public recognition is hijacked by the media who focus on a few political nominations. It’s a shame that people who have dedicated their lives to others don’t receive comparable press exposure.
New Year Resolutions
New Year resolutions are bullshit. You know this. I know this. A sham, a waste of time and a pointless self indulgence. If you want to make a change to your life then research it, plan it and implement it. As Yoda wisely said, “Do or do not. There is no try”. Or as German comedian Henning Wehn said “ Westphalia is not an option”.
You Cannot Always Achieve a Positive Outcome
If you keep abreast of the latest data collated by those with appropriate qualifications, you will notice that Western culture is becoming very risk averse. A lot of positive developments such as a greater focus on mental well being and being open about one’s feelings have also fostered a mindset where people don’t want to make mistakes or be seen to do so. This leads to a culture of either misplaced assuredness and possibly to the Dunning-Kruger effect, or alternatively to a complete inability to make decisions and a withdrawal from anything where definitive action is required.
When I was a young teenager I can remember several teachers at my school from different disciplines impressing upon us that it is not always possible to achieve a positive outcome. They illustrated this with points from history. This axiom also occurs in the literature and wider pop culture of the time and still persists today. Captain Picard stated that “It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life”. It is a shame that more people don’t understand this concept and reconcile themselves to it. Because I suspect that global events over the next 4 to 5 years will hammer the point home. Don’t allow yourself to be broken by a misplaced philosophy.
