New Year: Taking Stock of Your Life
I don’t really celebrate New Year’s Eve anymore. By that I mean, I don’t go to the pub or any other social gatherings. Nor do we have guests ourselves. Mrs P often doesn’t stay up to midnight. Mainly because she tends to go to bed relatively early, by default. One year changing to another seems a somewhat arbitrary excuse for a celebration to me. However, I realise that New Year is a big deal for some. I used to work with someone who said, very philosophically, that Christmas was for the children and New Year was for the adults. He was of Scottish antecedents and so New Year’s Eve was of more cultural significance to him. Also if you’ve had a difficult, problematic or traumatic 2025, then I fully understand that you may well be happy to see the back of 2025 and look to 2026 to be a significantly better year. Or at least, not to be as shit.
I don’t really celebrate New Year’s Eve anymore. By that I mean, I don’t go to the pub or any other social gatherings. Nor do we have guests ourselves. Mrs P often doesn’t stay up to midnight. Mainly because she tends to go to bed relatively early, by default. One year changing to another seems a somewhat arbitrary excuse for a celebration to me. However, I realise that New Year is a big deal for some. I used to work with someone who said, very philosophically, that Christmas was for the children and New Year was for the adults. He was of Scottish antecedents and so New Year’s Eve was of more cultural significance to him. Also if you’ve had a difficult, problematic or traumatic 2025, then I fully understand that you may well be happy to see the back of 2025 and look to 2026 to be a significantly better year. Or at least, not to be as shit.
However, one positive thing New Year does offer is an opportunity to take stock. I’m not talking about trite resolutions that the tabloid press are so fond of championing at this time of year. “New year, new you” sort of bullshit. I mean being brave and looking at your own life and giving serious consideration to what you can do to improve matters for yourself and possibly other people. You may also want to take a look at the state of the world. Be careful with this one as it can be a bit depressing. Although you may not be in a position to make any major changes there are lots of smaller scale things that we can do to help make life a little less shit. Taking stock should not be feared but embraced. A simple and honest audit of your personal status quo with a view to making some alterations. A chance to set some realistic and obtainable goals as well as a means to improve your state of mind.
I took time out from my usual activities at the end of April 2025. I went away for a short break to the Kent coast and was fortunate enough to have experienced some pleasant weather. I explored the picturesque town of Whitstable and relaxed at Margate Harbour. It was exceedingly restful to have a change of scene and be somewhere else for a change. During this time I candidly took stock of my life and the wider world in general. I am now a 58 years old man with more time behind me than I have in front of me. The world is also changing and I would argue not for the better. So I’ve been reflecting on both the past and the future. It has proven to be a valuable exercise and I feel better for it as I now have some clarity as to where I’m going. I have also made some decisions. Hopefully decisions that will address some of the things concerning me.
I won’t bore you with my various plans to improve my health or pursue various new writing projects. Because those aren’t really radical challenges. Improving my health is an imperative and therefore will be addressed simply because I fear the alternatives. The writing and associated projects will be done because they are a major source of pleasure and a creative outlet for me. The real and potentially challenging change I wish to make is to simply be more positive in my outlook on life. To make a concerted effort to find the good in situations and people and to dial back the skepticism. I want to be the person who after identifying an issue or problem, then has a cunning plan to address it. I believe this to be an important goal because legitimate concerns over what might happen both in your own backyard or globally are causing good people to retreat into their own personal inland empire.
I fully appreciate why disengaging from aspects of the world is a means to protect one’s mental wellbeing but it can also be part of a wider retreat from life. This concerns me because I keep coming back to the famous quote attributed to Edmond Burke. “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing”. My gut is telling me that 2026 is not the year to do this. I think we need to hold the line. I’m not saying that we all need to become militant, firebrand activists. I just think we need to do what we can within the context of our own lives. Speak out if appropriate or undertake small acts of kindness. Praise those who merit praise. Admonish those who don’t. Be kind. Be strong. Be true. At the very least don’t be an asshole. There are far too many of those already. I’m certainly going to give it a go, although I have no idea how it’s going to work. In the meantime “Merry New Year” as Eddie Murphy said in Trading Places. Take stock and act. See you in 2026.
